Mutual

Masturbation is one of our favorite things to do. Each of us likes to masturbate on our own, but we agree that masturbating together is where we both shine.

There’s nothing quite like laying next to her as she maneuvers a vibrator on her clit, kissing her as she tells me how wet she’s become. Just the same she’s told me a number of times she loves watching as precum leaks from the tip of my cock as I expertly work myself towards orgasm.

If the idea of masturbating with your partner sounds like fun but you’re not sure how to approach the situation or how to get things moving along, we’re here to help.

Communicate

We’re big on talking and have stressed the importance of talking in past pieces we’ve written. All aspects of sex and lovemaking start with a conversation between partners. Will you go down on me? Can you pull my hair? I’d like you to play with my ass. All perfect examples of subjects that can come up between couples, and mutual masturbation is no different. If you’re interested in masturbating together, explain why. Be honest with your partner and hopefully, it’ll lead to a fun experience.

Set the Mood

For most people, masturbation has been an act that is largely done on our own. Prior to our jump into mutual masturbation, each of us had spent the previous thirty-some years on solo missions. Be willing to bend and accept what your partner needs to get into the right frame of mind. If they need a certain toy, provide it. If there’s a spot in the house they prefer, join them. If there’s a movie or a scene that they watch to get off, get it started. Mutual Masturbation is a great way to bring watching porn together into your bedroom.

Patience

Where I can pull something up on my phone and get off in a matter of minutes, she needs more time. There are two ways to approach this and both can be incredibly fun for each of you, especially for penis-having parties. First, slow your pace and stay with your partner. Yes, it’s a hot situation and yeah they might be wearing little to nothing at all but try to stick to their pace. Watch your partner and as you see their orgasm begin, get working on your own. Anyone who’s cum with their partner can tell you there’s nothing quite like it. Second, should you have an orgasm before your partner, offer a helping hand. If they’re into dirty talk, whisper something hot in their ear. If they like a certain body part kissed or played with, offer your services. Make sure you ask first, but if your partner takes you up on this, enjoy!

Watch and Learn

You know what you need, but do they? Masturbating together is the best way to show each other what you want, how quickly you want it, and what to avoid. Do you need lube or do you provide enough of your own? Is slow and steady the way to go or are you more fast and furious? Are the small circles your thing or is it more up and down? By watching your partner play you get a front-row seat in becoming a better partner in bed.

In closing…

While we’re both big fans of playing together we understand it’s not for everyone. However, should you find yourself curious about this fantastic practice, make sure you talk it through with your partner. If it’s on the horizon, set the mood, be patient with each other, and take time to learn about one another. Most of all, have fun. Masturbating is all about pleasure, it’s meant to be a fun release. What can be better than spending time together doing something that makes each of you happy?